“Hey guys, I want you all to take this test. It’s called The
Five Love Languages” my friend announced on a road trip with a few other
friends. I’d heard of the test before and even remember begrudgingly taking it
for my step-mom during my teenage years. I thought it was one of those cheesy
parent things, but as my friend rattled on about all the benefits of
understanding how each of us shows and receives love, I started to get curious
about my love language.
We all pulled out our phones and started on the 50 or so
choices of how we would prefer a friend or partner act. The questions made us
choose from different actions. For example, “I would rather spend time with
someone doing an activity” or “I love it when someone surprises me with a
gift”. Another friend commented “these are hard” which seemed a bit ironic as
we were just answering simple questions about our own selves, but in truth, it
wasn’t easy.
Unsurprisingly we all score high on the “Quality Time” category.
Which we determined is why we must be friends. I actually tied with “Quality
Time” with “Acts of Service”. The older I get the more I realize being an adult
isn’t all it was once cut out to be. It’s not easy learning to deal with the
consequences of your own actions, choices, wishes and desires. It can be even
harder to accept the choices of others. It’s these little simple expressions of
love that make each day a little easier and even on the hardest days there can
be a brief moment where that love can even make the day enjoyable. Sometimes
it’s a text from someone you least expect saying they are thinking about you, maybe
some random surprise flowers from a lady you work for or a group of friends
loading you up on a spontaneous road trip to the country to cheer you up. We
all speak the language of love every day, but I think sometimes we just need to
be able to hear it and know when we’re being loved.
If you’re curious about how you liked to be loved, then take
the test.
Check it out here : http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
